The Art of Letting Go: How To Stop Resistance And Be Free


It's a human nature to hold on to things and people that we deeply desire and care about. The problem is the longer we hold on to something that's not good for our soul the more pain we'll feel and experience. The problem as adults is we have a hard time finding out how to let go. As children, we never hold on to something, maybe for a second where we throw tantrums for not getting the toy. We react in a moment with our true feelings. 



We let them go easily without thinking about it. We don't hold on to it for days. As children, we are free of worries. Letting go of someone or something doesn't necessarily mean you forget all about it. It just means you won't let specific people or things to be the primary subject to your thoughts. Yes, you still think of a desire, acting as if you already have, visualized having that desire and staying happy in the vortex, yet you let go of it. Because you're having fun doing these things for a moment and you go on with your life as usual. You believe it will achieve.

We let go of a bird that has landed on our hand and it has decided to fly away. We don't hold on to the bird, that's not how the law of nature works. A dog would bark at another dog and be happy the next seconds because it has let go of the other dog. I have to say animals are better at letting go and staying in the present. 

How can we let go? Why is letting go so difficult?
It's our ego that's always hungry for wanting more and more, yet never become satisfied. When we grow up we become fixated and sensitive to time. Don't worry, it will take time to let go, so don't force to let go of things. It will come naturally and faster than you notice if you distract yourself with your passionate hobbies, being social and seek time for yourself where you learn to love yourself and nourish yourself. 

We have an inner emptiness that we try to fulfill by holding on to people and things that's not with us in our current situation. When you become one with nature, have family and friends that love you for who you are and do lots of self-love you'll never feel empty. 

It's not healthy for our soul to hold on to things and people in fact we suffer. We torture ourselves this way without noticing. 

When you let go, everything will come back to you naturally. It works wonders like magic. When you set an intention for a desire and let go of it, it will come faster than you can imagine. Again letting go doesn't happen by forcing it. It comes naturally when you forget about the desire you have intended and focused on your daily life. Boom, it appears quickly. Sometimes it takes time for the desire to arrive. Maybe hours, months or years. 

Adults tend to "let go" of things by regressing our emotions and feelings in the wrong way. We get drunk, take drugs, give a fake laugh and smile, become passive-aggressive, become emotionless, and so on. You're not letting go of it like that. You're just suffering, so change your mindset.




We sometimes fool ourselves into believing we have let go of someone or something, that's where you have to find out what went wrong, and how you can do better to let go.

I can tell you that when you wish the best for your ex to have a successful relationship with someone else without feeling jealous or hurt, then you've let go successfully. The same when you congratulate someone for achieving that desire you've wanted for a while. When you praise people for their success, the success will happen for you too.


Relax.
To hold on is to suffer and be in prison. To let go is to live and be free. Just relax and meditate as the first step to release everything inside you and improve the art of letting go. 

8 comments

  1. This is oh-so-true. Many adults think they let go of something, but by the behaviors they display, they really haven't let go. Great post!

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    1. True, they need to be honest with themselves.

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  2. Hello Suzan. Thank you for sharing this fantastic post. I really enjoyed reading it, and I feel I can take a lot away from it. I will work on being better at this!

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    1. Thanks, you're welcome. I am glad it's useful for you.

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  3. It is definitely hard to let go of some things, but so, so worth it!

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    1. It's hard at first, but easier when you get to know it.

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  4. Suzan this is 100% up my alley. I love it. Doing deep yin yoga for the past year; definitely helps me let go more frequently.

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    1. I'm glad you've found yin yoga as a tool to let go. It's amazing.

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