Spend Time With Those Who Remind You Who You Are

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You are not meant to live your life being surrounded by people who try to change you. It's not worth having controlling people in your life, whether you know they are control freak or not. In fact, they are control freaks if they don't accept you for who you are.

The more you try to be something else to please the unsupportive people in your life, the more you'll live a lie. You'll become unhappy and confused, because why can't they just accept you for who you are? It can be your family members or friends who make a micro face expression of disgust whenever they see you succeed, change the clothing style or have evolved your opinion on different subjects.

Trust me, you'll feel miserable trying to be someone your family and friends want you to be. They punish you for being and thinking different. Even when you're over the legal age, people will still try to control you into being someone else than you. If they really love you, they'll accept you for who you are. They won't bully you and downgrade you like a piece of trash.


You should just express your opinion freely, even in a harsh, direct way. People shut you down and say "Don't say that. It's rude. Be nice." yet they are the same people who don't support your work and passion and insults your authentic character. For being you.

People are truly hypocritical these days.

I remember one time trying septum piercing for the first time. At that time it was a phase but I was happy to get one. I still don't regret having it back then to this day. Someone related to me bullied me for months, convincing me to take it out. There was no support but lots of insults and harsh force to take it out. I told the person to stop bullying me, but the person continued. I still remember all the harsh insults to this day.

Expressing my short story here is a little out of my comfort zone and embarrassing to express in this open platform. However, I just know this short story probably will relate to at least one of my readers. Letting them know they aren't alone in their struggles.

Your life will become worse and worse if you have controlling people in your life, telling you how to be. You are NOT a simulated character to be modified. You are a human being with emotions. You know yourself better than anyone else.

They just feel threatened that you're rising higher than them.

They feel threatened that you have the confidence to be yourself because they don't have that confidence. They try to pull you down in their own miserable hole.

Now, I don't mind constructive criticism and people changing your opinion and perspective in different subjects for the BETTER and GOOD. Those who lift you up with challenges against your own belief with new information you haven't heard before. With new information that are useful for your life.

Hold onto those who challenge you. Don't hold onto those who disgrace you.
Hold onto those who reminds you who you are. Don't hold onto those who make you forget who you truly are.

These people are so lost and confused in their own identity, so what makes them think they know what's best for you than yourself? They are lost souls. Never take advice from lost souls who fight with their own demons, whether they know it or not. Don't take advice from them or you'll be taking the wrong road in life as them. They are an example of destruction. Not example of happiness.

You need to be around people who remind you who you are. Those who understand your inner world. Those who listen to you, not hear you. Those who are sensitive to your needs and wants to see you succeed. Those who respect your difference and having a different opinion on different subjects.
They'll support you in anything you do as long it makes you happy from the inside. They give you freedom and space to be yourself.


You're meant to live a simple life because other good people make you feel like you wanna live because they accept you and joins in your happiness. Those who don't accept you for who you are makes you feel like you're not good enough and therefore you hate living.

You suddenly feel like a human being again. People will notice the light in your eyes from having people around you who are healthy for your soul. You no longer look lifeless and lost. You feel like a human being again, you smile more, you have more faith in yourself.

Simply because good people help you to grow and embrace who you truly are from within. They celebrate your happiness. You deserve to be accepted. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be seen for who you are without being feeling embarrassed. The unsupportive ones will make you feel embarrassed about who you are. The supportive ones will make you feel confident in your own skin again. You feel less alone in your own thoughts when you have good people making you feel safe in this world. Reminding you that you're not alone in your journey. They're with you through thick and thin.

Having people in your life who support you is a blessing and a gift.

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